When you are married- FOR MEN

Well today I am writing on the topic which I usually don't bother to write about because you will find numerous articles on what to do? and what not to do ? when you are married. But, I thought I can look in to this matter from a different view. Like what a woman thinks of marriage? and what a man should do or behave after getting married?. In addition, I would also like to have your input as well since I believe that no opinion is final at all. 

Marriage is a wonderful experience if you do it at right time and off course when you are mentally ready. Many marriages do not succeed or struggle to survive since either man or woman was not ready to take on this responsibility. In fact, marriage is a life long responsibility, full time commitment, the second name of sacrifice and yes you are right, it is the pool of tension and stress too. But, when you endure these obligations associated with this beautiful bond then you will able to eat its fruit and avail the precious blessings which comes along with getting married. 

women in marriage is not my topic but its man whom I want to address in today's post. Once again I am emphasising that I am not generalising my views on all the men, certainly there are that kind of men on the planet too whom value marriage and runs this department very well. However, there are some mistakes which usually they make before and after getting married. 

First of all, they get married while they are not ready. "Ready" means to be ready with all your heart and mind. You should accept all the consequences of marriage before tying the knot. Marriage is a respectable and unbreakable bond, once you are married you cant back off for small reasons or since it is not working. Remember that like every project, every plan a marriage also takes time to get strong and in the meanwhile you will also get familiar  with the "married" lifestyle.

Secondly, Some guys even want "freedom" after marriage. They want their life and routines simply unchanged even after including someone in it. Why men don't realise that marriage is a complete shift of life's direction both for them and their wives. It is simply impossible to expect that you life will be the same as it was before your marriage. Please accept this fact and be adaptable to the new changes. You are not a bachelor any more. Admit it.

Thirdly, when you are married you have to leave the "boyish" attitudes once you owned proudly. Because, after getting married you are expected to act like a gentle man. No matter how frank and comfortable you are with your wife, even she expects you to act like one. Please, do not use abusive language frequently. Don't wander, joke or flirt around other ladies. Your efforts should be to impress your wife, make her laugh and desire for her attention. You have got nothing to do with other fellas whom have nothing to do with your life. In short, invest your time, energy, charm, wit and emotions to where it is needed and wanted the most. The results can make your life a living heaven.

Fourthly, a simple rule to be truthful. The institution of the marriage is based on truth and truth only. When you lie to your spouse and hide things than certainly trust issues will arise. The more you are open, frank and truthful the more your married life will be easy and drama free. Remember you are a team so nothing to hide. 

Lastly, be patient and steady. We all have heard about rabbit and turtle's race that slow and steady wins the race. Be patient enough to tolerate the marriage problems such as listen to your spouse feelings and issues, do not blame her right away, be empathetic and try to solve her problems. Most of the wives leave telling their problems since they know that it will not be solved instead create some more trouble for them. They conclude that to be silent is better than being criticised. Be kind and patient with her.

I hope that this note will contribute in some way to strengthen marriages on men's part this time. I will certainly write for my type the wives also. Stay tuned.